Paul and I are both newly weds in our late 20s. I went to public schools and he went to a private prep school. I was fascinated by his stories. He told me of how boys and girls received spankings for infractions. I pressed for details. He said every day if you were written up, you reported to a detention room after classes. I know myself well enough to admit that the childishly impulsive and also mischievous side of my personality makes it necessary that I am disciplined by my husband and that he is in charge and sets the necessary boundaries gives me a freedom from responsibilities and worries I only insufficiently meet and it provides me with a feeling of basic safety that I can rely on his caring headship and can trust that he keeps and eye on me and keeps me in line. Traditional spankings are usually administered over the lap of the spanker. This can be with you sitting on a chair and your husband draped across your lap. If he (or you) is too big for this, try sitting on the bed with him lying across your lap. Lion is generally spanked with him lying over the edge of the bed with his legs dangling to the floor. Mrs. Lion either stands or sits next to him. You can have him lie over a pile of pillows. This is effective in stretching his skin and making it easier to reach every inch. After messing up and acting stupidly or procrastinating too much etc. we were having a serious discussion almost verging on an argument. My wife said I was acting very immaturely and irresponsibly adding "Maybe a spanking for real will get your attention." One thing lead to another and she was moving forward with her idea. I got a real spanking that hurt enough to have me apologize sincerely and begin doing immediately what I'd promised her for months. She turned on the TV and sat down, looking for all the world like a regular mum. Only she and I knew that five minutes earlier she had paddled my bottom good and sore.

We finally got home, I carried the bags inside then came out to say good bye to my sister in law and I apologized for speaking rudely. After that my wife told me to go inside and wait for her. I was near the front door as my wife was saying goodbye to her sister then said I'm going to go get him in line." Over time his skin will toughen and he won’t bleed. The tougher skin may require harder swats, but you can do that. I collected my magazine and sat (carefully) in the lounge with Val until my own mum joined us again. Val looked over and smiled at me once or twice, probably knowing my bum was stinging pretty good. I’m sure she had a lot of spanking experience, probably when her kids were a bit younger. Most women paddling a boy for the first time would have gone much easier to start with, but Val had the measure just right. Well, maybe she could have gone a little easier – I still had a mark on my behind three days later when we flew home. I could really use your insight on the concept of maintenance spanking. In the last week or so, my husband has wanted to explore having a female-led relationship. So while he has always done the cooking, and is a great co-parent two our two children, he's now taking on the majority of the rest of the housework. I'm all in favor of this, as he hasn't always done half of the housework, and our new arrangement has allowed me to be a more present parent and pursue more creative pursuits. In addition to parenting, I am now managing our finances, which I don't mind doing. He has recently wanted to try " maintenance spanking" as a way to reinforce his submission. We've done spanking as a part of sex for awhile, both with my hand and with a flogger, and we enjoy other Dom/sub activities like pegging. But I honestly don't "get" the spanking thing apart from sex. When should it happen? When is it supposed to end? Why are we doing this? We tried last night and decided on a certain number of lashes. He asked afterward if I felt powerful and the answer was NO. I didn't get anything from this and I don't understand it. The whole thing felt very ceremonial and I am not sure what to do with that level of formality. Anything I can do to get in this headspace? Am I thinking about this wrong? The Littles Party in Sarah’s suite was later on in the evening and I went to that. She had many little playmates there and they were all well behaved, thankfully. I’m not a “littles” fan and only go because it means so much to Sarah to have her Momma there. Sometimes these play parties can get out of hand with a bunch of over-sized brats throwing paper airplanes, shooting water pistols and just being annoying. I have no patience for this whatsoever!I also use it if I we’ve pre-planned a long shopping trip and may try it before leaving on vacation. Since he’s still feeling it somewhat, if a spanking is needed it shouldn’t have to be too long, loud or severe to reset him. I got an extra long hug from Val when we left. She whispered in my ear: “I’m gonna miss you the most.” I must say, the feeling was mutual – although I did miss the Mustang too. Sarah finished a video we filmed at my house in Carmel “Scolded and Spanked” and it’s available for sale now in my DVD store. I’ve posted the first 2 clips and set of pix in my members area. I was extremely busy at TASSP – shot 2 videos, which should be edited and available soon, did 7 sessions, and participated in 2 demonstrations at the event. I am in a very happy and harmonious marriage with a wonderful husband. The only big disappointment we have had is that we never got the children we would have wanted. We have always been happy together also in many ways privileged. Now we both are retired but still active in many ways and together we enjoy life very much.

A play spanking hurts and can be as severe as a punishment, but it is administered with a slow buildup to allow Lion’s body to develop the endorphins (brain hormones) that convert the pain to pleasure. Sunday June 22: Sarah, Paul, and I shot a video titled Prom Night Punishment and Daddy Paul and I are not too happy with her staying out past her curfew. She gets an OTK from me and Daddy, then he takes his belt to her. I never thought of giving Stef a spanking BEFORE the arrival of guests – or else: before leaving to see friends or family at their places Regarding sandals, We have a store named Gabes near us that I found a pair of rubbery plastic sandals that are so firm they hardly bend. I cant wear them but they were cheap and I wanted to experiment. They practically screamed “Use for Paddling!” they are now one of the most dreaded implements I have and have brought tears to my husbands eyes after only a brief spanking. He’s begged me not to use them when I’ve reached for one. The blog section will be added to most often. This will cover some of the topics above but also provide accounts of actual spankings that my husband has received from me. Some blogs are written by me and some are written by my husband. This should provide a good perspective from both a top (spanker) and bottom (spankee).

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For the last three days, we have gotten lots of rain. It has kept me from getting on with my gardening projects, and every day the dog and I came home wet and dirty from the riding club. I guess that is what made me moody and sullen so I forgot my manners and behavior. My husband expects me not to forget the respect I owe him. Disciplinary spankings, also known as punishment spankings, or corporal punishment, are usually less common than maintenance spankings, but are perhaps the most essential. They establish you as the source of the pain he fears as well as the pleasure he craves, motivating his entire mindset. It is vital that he understands that serious matters have serious consequences, and that it is as important not to displease you as it is to please you. Always make sure he knows why he is being punished, so he can learn from his mistake, correct his behavior, grow as person, and strengthen your relationship. For best results, make certain the spanking is severe enough that he learns the lesson. The frequency of disciplinary spankings varies depending on how minor an infraction you wish to punish, but for most who reserve such spankings for more major incidents, these spankings should be infrequent, and more so the longer he is yours. The intensity and duration of these spankings also varies depending on the severity and nature of his infraction, but generally speaking range from mid to extreme. He used to almost always spank me with his belt but as one of the presents he had for me on my birthday in 2015 was a so-called reformatory strap. The strap is now the standard implement he uses when he needs to discipline me.