Recreationally speaking, Harley offers an excellent exercise in Appendix C which allows couples to review and rank at least 125 different recreational activities by preference. With real-life examples and actionable strategies, "His Needs, Her Needs" provides valuable insights for couples looking to enhance their relationship. is a clinical psychologist, a marriage counsellor, and the bestselling author of numerous books, including His Needs, Her Needs; Five Steps to Romantic Love; Love Busters; and His Needs, Her Needs for Parents.

Although it was written to be a support text for his marriage counseling program, within three years it had become a national best-seller and a basic reference for marriage counselors throughout the nation. Domestic support- The wife should not pursue a career, and if she does work household chores should be divided according to the needs of the husband. In addition, by meeting the needs of your spouse, and by having your needs met, you will transform your marriage into something wonderful. In this book, humans are nothing more than products of biology responding to various stimuli and cognitive biases. If the "Mars vs Venus" format of the emotional needs is still setting off triggers for you, I'd recommend "The 5 Love Languages," by Gary Chapman.

With today's soaring divorce rate and prevalence of affairs, Harley's insights are needed more than ever before. Bằng cách liệt kê và phân tích 10 nhu cầu cơ bản, trong đó chia ra 5 nhu cầu là ưu tiên của người vợ (affection, intimate conversation, honestly and openess, financial support, family commitment) và 5 nhu cầu là ưu tiên của người chồng (sexual fulfilment, recreational companionship, physical attractiveness, domestic support, admiration), tác giả chỉ ra rằng việc thỏa mãn những nhu cầu tối quan trọng của người vợ/người chồng là yếu tố tiên quyết khiến cho cuộc hôn nhân bền vững. In this book, Harley explores the concept of emotional needs in marriage and how understanding and meeting each other's needs can lead to a fulfilling and lasting relationship.

Children add a unique strain on a couple's time and relationship, yet they desperately need parents who love each other. My husband and I read it early on and I really feel that it was the secret to our success and smooth sailing through the rough patches and growing pains we faced in our first few years. My step-dad, who is a pastor, uses this book for counseling couples on the verge of divorce or trying to get through/avoid adultery and uses it to help guide them back to a place where they can make each other happy again. Việc chia 5 nhu cầu dành riêng cho mỗi giới không hẳn là phù hợp hoàn toàn cho nhiều người, ví dụ như nhu cầu ưu tiên của mình lại là nhu cầu mà tác giả xếp vào nhóm nhu cầu của đàn ông cơ :)) nhưng quan trọng nhất cái ý tưởng đấy là: Cần tìm hiểu được nhu cầu của mình, chia sẻ được với người bạn đời của mình một cách rõ ràng để người ta hiểu; Tìm hiểu nhu cầu của bạn đời và cố gắng để thỏa mãn những nhu cầu của người ta bằng một tư tưởng cầu thị, bao dung và đầy tính xây dựng. His Needs, Her Needs for Parents will help couples maintain their love for each other and raise happy and successful children at the same time.If his income is insufficient to provide essential support, he resolves the problem by upgrading his skills to increase his salary. He introduces the concept of a 'Love Bank' - an internal record of how well each partner meets the other's emotional needs. Following the pattern of the best-selling His Needs, Her Needs, this book guides both new and seasoned parents through the whys and hows of sustaining romance in a marriage. Provide your spouse with a calendar of your activities, with special emphasis on those that may affect him or her.

Lest you say that this doesn't apply to "me", he points out that a person (even a person with solid religious belief, and firm moral conviction) may be tempted into an affair, seduced by a "relationship built upon fantasy, not reality.A wife must have a man contributing to the well-being of her children, whether it’s the husband or someone else. Mình thì không theo đạo Thiên chúa nên cũng không hiểu giáo lý của Thiên chúa nhưng thấy có rất nhiều người trên goodreads tranh cãi về mặt tư tưởng. If any of a spouse’s five basic emotional needs go unmet, that spouse becomes vulnerable to the temptation of an affair. We work closely with publishers and authors to ensure that we offer the best books on the market for your child. You have to start family time from the start, not in the teen years; otherwise they may not agree at all to such an arrangement.

If you have an incorrect view of what marriage represents, then you will also diagnose and treat conflict within the marriage incorrectly. I gave this book five stars not because it's perfect, but because it has some great solid advice that I believe has put not just my marriage but my worldview on the right trajectory. một cái review viết nghiêm túc quá =)))) tại mình thật lòng muốn chia sẻ cho nhiều người ý vì thấy hôn nhân giờ mong manh quá? Chapter 10 describes the need for domestic support, stating that on average “she wants domestic tasks completed,[and] he has a need for her to complete them” (148). Chapter 9 describes the need for financial support and suggests ideas for effective budgeting (133-136).

Harley’s His Needs, Her Needs would be a book useful for any married couple whose relationships is either on the proverbial rocks or as healthy as it was when they first said, “I do. When the Love Bank is full, couples experience feelings of love; when it's low or in deficit, feelings of discontentment arise. He provides guidance for becoming irresistible to your spouse and for loving more creatively and sensitively.